Flowers are the oldest language of sympathy. But which arrangement, sent when, and with what message? Our floral designer answers the questions families ask most.
Which arrangement should I choose?
Casket sprays are traditionally chosen by the immediate family. Standing wreaths, hearts and crosses suit close friends, colleagues and organizations. Hand-tied bouquets and basket arrangements are always appropriate — for the service or for the family home in the weeks after.
White lilies signify restored innocence; white roses speak of reverence; soft pinks carry grace; and seasonal garden flowers feel personal and warm. There are no strict rules — choose what reminds you of the person.
Send flowers to the service to honor a life; send them to the home, weeks later, to comfort the living.
When and where to send
Order at least a day before the service so arrangements arrive dressed and settled before guests do. Send to the funeral home for the service, or to the family's home — especially two or three weeks later, when other support has quietly faded and a bouquet means the most.
What to write on the card
Keep it short and sincere: “With deepest sympathy,” “Thinking of you all,” or one sentence about the person — “Mr. Alvarez taught me to love books.” Sign your full name so the family knows who to thank.
Our shop delivers sympathy flowers across Brooklyn and Queens with a handwritten card. Order a sympathy tribute here, or call 800.567.1234 for same-day chapel delivery.
